Give Yourself Permission

Give Yourself Permission

“Anything that’s human is mentionable, and anything that is mentionable can be more manageable.” ~Fred Rogers Mr. Rogers always had wise words, compassionate words for us all. He understood that to be human is difficult sometimes and he also understood that it...
A Bit at a Time

A Bit at a Time

We can’t grieve it all at once. Sometimes we have to let our grief in a bit at a time. Alan Wolfelt, one of the authors featured in our library, calls it dosing.One of our group participants said, “I can’t look at it all at once. It’s too big.”Grief can become...
There Is No Hurry

There Is No Hurry

It’s interesting to me how pervasive the idea of getting back to “normal” is in our culture. We use words like healing, resilience, transformation, growth. Oh there are so many. I would like to suggest here, that as a griever you have permission to ignore all of those...
Give up the Struggle with the Struggle

Give up the Struggle with the Struggle

Do you struggle with the fact that you are struggling? Many of us do. We are so very hard on ourselves. Our inner critics are on overdrive. We “should” ourselves into misery. For some reason, we feel like we are not grieving right, or that we should be over our grief...
One of Those Days

One of Those Days

And then there are the days when the missing is just more intense. It feels like there is an enormous absence in our life and we just feel like crap. There is nothing we can do about it.  We can’t shift into anything that feels positive or hopeful. One of those...
Well Meaning People Giving Poor Advice

Well Meaning People Giving Poor Advice

One of the hardest parts about grieving is that the people around us who love us, and who care about us, try to help us by giving us advice that is not helpful. Don’t get me wrong, I realize that these are good people with big hearts, but they often do not understand...