by Denise Torgerson | Oct 4, 2023 | Stories
Oh boy, another holiday. The fall has been beautiful this year. The colors seem more vibrant than ever. I am thankful for this. Here is the thing though, Thanksgiving is another day that makes our loss seem more present. When we participate in our traditional...
by Denise Torgerson | Sep 19, 2023 | Stories
It can be surprising – people we look to for support just aren’t there for us. Or they are there for us, but in a way that is unhelpful. Sometimes our friends and family just don’t have the capacity to hold space for us. It can be necessary to rewrite your contact...
by Denise Torgerson | Sep 6, 2023 | Stories
We have heard it so many times – you have to feel to heal, or the only way out is through, or we need to feel our feelings not ignore them. While I agree with all of these statements, the question I hear often is how? How am I supposed to feel this? How do I know if I...
by Denise Torgerson | Aug 24, 2023 | Stories
If only our society had a better understanding of grief. If only we understood – all of us, that there is no time line. We do not “get over” our grief in 3 days, 3 weeks, or even 3 months. Depending on the relationship, grief can take a long time. David Kessler states...
by Denise Torgerson | Aug 8, 2023 | Stories
This a term created by Carla Mitchell to describe how children grieve. I love the metaphor. Children hop in and out of grieving, just like they hop in and out of puddles. It can look like they do not grieve. They grieve a bit and then go on playing. Some adults are...
by Denise Torgerson | Jun 21, 2023 | Stories
It is not often recognized as a part of grieving. When we lose someone we love, our world changes and so we have to change. I hear this in grief groups a lot. Who am I now? Am is still a wife? Am I still a sister? Am I still a dad? We define ourselves by our roles....
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