Radical Self-Care

Radical Self-Care

I know this is the season of giving. I will admit that giving to others is a very good way to care for yourself. Generosity of time and spirit can be incredibly helpful when we are grieving. However this year, as part of your self-care, I would ask you to be radical....
The Grief Response

The Grief Response

As we move into the holidays, I ask you to remember that grief is not just an emotional experience. Oh, I am aware that emotions play a major role in our inner worlds right now. This is a truth. Along with the emotional roller coaster, there are other ways that grief...
It Has Started

It Has Started

Yes, it is that time of year again when we are all supposed to pretend that we are happy. The season of good cheer, Christmas. For people who are grieving, Christmas can be exhausting. It is so hard pretending to be of good cheer. Often our friends and family are...
Give Yourself Permission

Give Yourself Permission

“Anything that’s human is mentionable, and anything that is mentionable can be more manageable.” ~Fred Rogers Mr. Rogers always had wise words, compassionate words for us all. He understood that to be human is difficult sometimes and he also understood that it...
A Bit at a Time

A Bit at a Time

We can’t grieve it all at once. Sometimes we have to let our grief in a bit at a time. Alan Wolfelt, one of the authors featured in our library, calls it dosing.One of our group participants said, “I can’t look at it all at once. It’s too big.”Grief can become...
There Is No Hurry

There Is No Hurry

It’s interesting to me how pervasive the idea of getting back to “normal” is in our culture. We use words like healing, resilience, transformation, growth. Oh there are so many. I would like to suggest here, that as a griever you have permission to ignore all of those...