It Has Started

It Has Started

Yes, it is that time of year again when we are all supposed to pretend that we are happy. The season of good cheer, Christmas. For people who are grieving, Christmas can be exhausting. It is so hard pretending to be of good cheer. Often our friends and family are...
Give Yourself Permission

Give Yourself Permission

“Anything that’s human is mentionable, and anything that is mentionable can be more manageable.” ~Fred Rogers Mr. Rogers always had wise words, compassionate words for us all. He understood that to be human is difficult sometimes and he also understood that it...
A Bit at a Time

A Bit at a Time

We can’t grieve it all at once. Sometimes we have to let our grief in a bit at a time. Alan Wolfelt, one of the authors featured in our library, calls it dosing.One of our group participants said, “I can’t look at it all at once. It’s too big.”Grief can become...
There Is No Hurry

There Is No Hurry

It’s interesting to me how pervasive the idea of getting back to “normal” is in our culture. We use words like healing, resilience, transformation, growth. Oh there are so many. I would like to suggest here, that as a griever you have permission to ignore all of those...
Give up the Struggle with the Struggle

Give up the Struggle with the Struggle

Do you struggle with the fact that you are struggling? Many of us do. We are so very hard on ourselves. Our inner critics are on overdrive. We “should” ourselves into misery. For some reason, we feel like we are not grieving right, or that we should be over our grief...